You love your spouse, but their family? Maybe not so much. Some of us are blessed with incredible in-laws we adore, but others aren’t so fortunate. So here are some tips for easing tension and staying positive when dealing with your partner’s mom.
- Don’t force it - All you can do is make an effort, but if you don’t click with your mother-in-law from the start, you can’t force it. Continue being pleasant and remember that your spouse is the reason you’re trying to make it work.
- Text a friend - You need someone other than your partner to vent to when your MIL does something to annoy you. Have a go-to bestie who doesn’t mind listening – whatever you do, DON’T whine to your spouse.
- Don’t take it personally - Maybe she’s being pushy about when you’re going to have kids or giving you a hard time about going back to work too soon after you have them. No matter what the gripe, try to shake it off. You’re free to make your own choices in life and she’s allowed to disagree. So try not to let it get to you.
- Compliment her - For doing such a wonderful job raising her son. Let her know she is a big part of why he turned out to be such a good person. You’ll be sincere, since you do really think the world of your hubby and a little appreciation goes a long way.
- Know when to bring it up with your spouse - If you do vent to your spouse about his mom, be considerate. It’s his mom and you don’t want to force him to choose sides. So don’t start off by calling her crazy, even if you think she is.